Why Following Your Intuition Is Not The Same As Following Your Heart

It is often suggested that…

Intuition Is The Same As Following Your Heart

This is something I’ve considered, thought about, meditated on, and discussed it at great length with friends. And I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s not.

Intuition is not heart over head.

Anyone who has ever made a bad (or mad) decision about a relationship can tell you that the heart can sometimes get it wrong.

Our Head rationalises our decisions:

  • We weigh up the pros and cons.
  • We think about how others will judge us,
  • we consider the effects that our actions or decisions will have on people around us.
  • And very often we accept the rational, logical decision we come to.

But sometimes we do all of that, and then override it because

It just doesn’t feel right!

That feeling of ‘it just doesn’t feel right’ is our intuition

But it isn’t our heart.

Our heart gets muddled with emotions and feelings for someone (and the hormones that get released as a result of relationships and connection).

It is, of course, quite possible to love someone who is not good for us. It is also quite likely that we have an emotional attachment to someone who can manipulate our decisions. They play on those emotions, or our attachment, even when something else is saying

it just doesn’t feel right!

We will still proceed because:

  • we are in love
  • they are family
  • they need me
  • I can fix them
  • we’ve been friends for ages
  • it’s the ‘right’ / ‘expected’ thing to do.

Our intuition warns us, it overrules our heart. It’s not coming from our head.

Intuition Is Often Called A Gut Instinct

And it might be (or take a look at this article on What Is Intuition?)

Head rationalises (and often shouts loud). Heart has emotional attachment (and can make us feel bad). But our Intuition comes from somewhere else. Maybe it’s a part of that primal, visceral, gut instinct that keeps us safe. If we let it. Or maybe it’s an inner knowing beyond our consciousness. Or maybe it’s the universe, angels, or a spirit guide screaming…’no!’

Don’t Mistake Your Heart For Intuition

You know the answer to your questions. They are deep within you. You don’t need to go to someone else for them, or have your ‘cards done’ or anything else. You need to go within.

Admittedly sometimes talking things through with a friend, counsellor, or coach can help bring out what your intuition is trying to tell you. 

Choose carefully who you speak with. You need someone who’ll let you speak, ask the right questions and not just inflict their opinion on you.

Working with a coach can help provide the space to allow you to really go within, without their agenda being anywhere near. And while having unconditional positive regard for you. 

When you make your decision based on intuition, your head may hurt, your heart may ache, but your shoulders will no longer feel the weight of the burden.

And then you will know that you made the right one.

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Helen Leathers

Transformational Women's Coach, Trainer, Speaker & Author

Combining a spiritual outlook, a pragmatic approach, and a sense of humour I want to help you remember who YOU are and reveal YOUR path so you can step on to it empowered, energised, inspired and guided.

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1 Comment

  1. Mary

    “When you make your decision based on intuition, your head may hurt, your heart may ache, but your shoulders will no longer feel the weight of the burden. And then you will know that you made the right one”.

    This is soooo true! I’ve literally just made a huge decision, ending a 6 year relationship that was not good for me. I’ve been battling with what was the right decision and finally listened to my gut.

    My head and heart hurts, but I feel such a sense of relief, it’s almost beautiful!



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