Why Following Your Intuition Is Not The Same As Following Your Heart - Helen Leathers, Transformational Women's Coach, Trainer, Speaker

following your heartIt was suggested to me recently that

Intuition Is The Same As Following Your Heart

This is something I’ve considered before. I’ve thought about it, meditated on it, discussed it at great length with friends, and come to the conclusion that it’s not!

Intuition is not heart over head.

Anyone who has ever made a bad, or mad, decision about a relationship can tell you that the heart can sometimes get it wrong.

Our head rationalises our decisions. We weigh up the pros and cons. We think about how others will judge us, we consider the effects that our actions or decisions will have on people around us. And very often we accept the rational, logical decision we come to.

But sometimes we do all of that, and then override it because

it just doesn’t feel right!

That feeling of ‘it just doesn’t feel right’ is our intuition

But it isn’t our heart.

Our heart get muddled with emotions and feelings for someone. It is, of course, quite possible to love someone who is not good for us. It is also quite likely that we have an emotional attachment to someone who can manipulate our decisions. They play on those emotions, or our attachment, even when something else is saying

it just doesn’t feel right!

We will still proceed because we are in love, or they are family, or they need me, ,or we’ve been friends for ages, or it’s the ‘right’ / ‘expected’ thing to do.

Our intuition warns us, it overrules our heart. It’s not coming from our head.

Intuition Is Often Called A Gut Instinct

And there’s the difference. Head rationalises (and often shouts loud), Heart has emotional attachment (and can make us feel bad), but our Intuition comes from somewhere else. It is a primal, visceral, gut instinct that keeps us safe. If we let it.

Don’t Mistake Your Heart For Intuition

You know the answer to your questions. They are deep within you. You don’t need to go to someone else for them, or have your ‘cards done’ or anything else. You need to go within.

Admittedly sometimes talking things through with a friend can help bring out what your intuition is trying to tell you. But they do have to be the right person. Someone who’ll let you speak, ask the right questions and not just inflict their opinion on you. They will also love you whatever your decision (mostly), so choose these people wisely.

When you make your decision based on intuition, your head may hurt, your heart may ache, but your shoulders will no longer feel the weight of the burden. And then you will know that you made the right one.