Touch Isn't Just For Our Screens - Helen Leathers, Transformational Women's Coach, Trainer, Speaker

Touch is a powerful thing. There are many scientific studies into touch, I want to share the details of one of these with you. I would also like to encourage you to reach out and connect with others in a non-tech way, in a bid for more understanding and increased compassion.

As someone who has trained in complementary therapies including massage, reflexology and Reiki I’ve always believed that touch is a huge part of any healing process. I know many practitioners of Reiki work above the body, in the aura, with no physical contact. However, I always (with permission and within the confines of decency of course) worked hands-on if I could. Partly because I was used to hands-on physical therapy. But also because the element of touch is so powerful.

(Please note throughout this article I am only referring only to appropriate and consensual touching!)

Connection Through Touch

Connection is a powerful word for me. I truly believe it is my mission to help people connect, with themselves, with nature, with source, with their hidden magic, with their divine nature. And with one another. Touch is a literal way that we can connect with ourselves, nature and others. How?

  • We can place our hands on ourselves – I do this regularly when I give myself Reiki. I frequently fall asleep at night with my hands on my abdomen letting the energy flow through me
  • We can place our hands or feet on the earth, or reach out and touch other elements of nature: plants, trees, the sea, the rain.
  • We can make physical contact with others to convey warmth, compassion, love and sincerity.

Connected With The World 24-7

Our society, especially in the U.K. and U.S.A. has lost touch with touch. We seem to only understand it in terms of touch screens. And they’re supposed to make us feel connected? Yes, I can see how they do in one way, but we’re missing out on so much else. Statistics from a 1960’s study by psychologist Sidney Jourard, showed the differences between cultures and physical contact. During conversations between friends in a cafe in different countries, those in England never touched their friend. In the United States, they touched each other twice when they became animated. What about elsewhere? The French made physical contact 110 times per hour and the Puerto Ricans 180 times per hour.

Wow, interesting, and a bit sad for us in good ole Blighty with our stiff upper lips an’ all.

Does Art Emulate Reality?

Interesting side-note: While looking for an image to go with this article I put the word ‘touch‘ in to a search bar on an image website. Of almost 100 pictures that came up, 7 showed two people touching. Two showed a human and animal having a snuggle, and all the rest showed technology. When I tried the word ‘cuddles’, of the almost 100 pictures, 10 showed two humans ‘cuddling’. The rest showed a combination of either human-animal, animal-animal, or human-cuddly toy connection. One showed a girl wrapping her arms around herself. I am truly saddened by this.

This is mad – touch is so powerful and we miss out on its benefits. I know that personally, post-divorce when I was living on my own for the first time in my life, my friends (and many business acquaintances too) were pretty much forced to hug me whenever I saw them.  I missed hugs, I missed human connection. I’ve recently started partner dancing and being connected with someone else in this way is extremely powerful, and joyful.

Mind Reading Through Touch

I wanted to share this fascinating article with you. It refers to a powerful study on touch and how it can convey emotions. I’ll summarise it here, but I urge you to click through and read the full article at the end. It’s written by and refers to research undertaken by Dacher Keltner, Ph.D., from The University of California, Berkeley, U.S.

In a lab two strangers were separated from each other. They could touch hands through a barrier, One person had to try to convey various emotions through a one-second touch to the stranger’s forearm. The person whose arm was being touched had to guess the emotion. There was a 1 in 8 chance of guessing correctly. Participants guessed the COMPASSION nearly 60 percent of the time. And gratitude, anger, love, fear were correctly guessed more than 50 percent of the time.

I find this fascinating. Here’s a link to the full article:

In a world that is more and more connected by tech, but where so many people of all ages are feeling isolated and alone (I googled some stats but was blown away by the numbers and amount of research) I’m with this fine lady: